Thus far in my life, Mother's Day has always been a day to celebrate the wonderful mom I had. (And for the past three years, it has also included thanking my wonderful mother-in-law for raising such a great son!) This year on Mother's Day, I can't help but think about our kids' birth mother. I found out that the Saturday before Mother's Day is Birth Mother's Day. I wonder...What our kids' birth mother is/was like? Did my kids get to know their birth mother at all before going to their orphanage? What were the circumstances that our kids could no longer live with their birth mother? Did she die? Did she have to leave them at an orphanage for some other reason? I wonder what their birth mother looks like. I hope someday to have a picture of her, for our kids' sake. I hope that if she is still living, and if our children want too, that someday we can meet her. And if I am ever privileged enough to meet my children's birth mother I want to tell her some things. I want to tell her "Thank you. Thank you for giving your children life. Thank you for giving them all the love you could." And I want her to know that her children will be okay. That we will love them and care for them.
PS. I write about our kids in this article as if they are already ours. No, we don't have a referral yet. But as future adoptive parents, we think of our future kids as "our kids", even though we don't know their names or ages. They may not legally be our kids yet, but in our hearts, they are and always will be our children!