International adoption is costly (airfare, agency fees, immigration fees) and time consuming (average adoption takes 2-3 years). Domestic and International adoption cannot keep up with the rate of children entering orphanages (or foster system) in most countries. There simply aren't enough parents adopting for all the children that need permanent loving families. So the number of adoptive parents needs to increase right? My answer is yes, but." Yes, lets have more families (both internationally and domestically) adopt children! But at the same time, lets put some other solutions in place!
BUT, what if ... orphaned children could find a permanent loving family in their extended family (aunts, uncles, grandparents, etc.)? And what if those families could afford to take them in and care for them and love them? That would be an awesome solution so that the child never went to the orphanage in the first place!
BUT, what if single mothers didn't have the pressure to abandoned their children due to poverty and social stigma? What if they had the support they needed that they could lovingly raise their children if they so chose? And if they didn't feel they could they were ready to raise children, what if they could choose an infant adoption? Many countries don't have the system in place like the US has for mother's to find a couple to place her child with through infant adoption. Many times the mother's only option is to abandon her child.
BUT, what if countries didn't have laws limiting the number of children a family could have? (This leads to high abandonment rate of girls and children born with disabilities in those countries.)
BUT, what if programs could be put in place where families didn't have to place their children in an orphanage due to poverty? ( I can't imagine how hard it must be to have no food to feed your children and having to place them in an orphanage just to be fed. I don't judge those people at all.)
BUT, what if parents of children born with disabilities weren't encouraged by doctors, the government, and society at large to abandon their children/put them in an orphanage? What if instead they were given the supports they needed to lovingly raise their children? (In many countries when a child is born with a disability, they are encouraged to abandoned the child after birth at the hospital. I kid you not! And I do NOT judge. Because in not so recent US history, we Americans also put children with disabilities in institutions.)
BUT, what if all countries allowed domestic adoption (and international adoption)? We are friends with an immigrant couple. This couple has suffered from infertility for years and wished to adopt, however their country doesn't have adoption at all! (Relatives sometimes take in children who are orphaned, but they don't adopt them.)
If those "what ifs" were in place, that would DRAMATICALLY decrease the number of children in orphanages world wide. (There would still be some children due to children being removed from families due to neglect and abuse and death of parents.) And then domestic and international adoption would be an awesome solution for the remaining children in orphanages!
AND, what if the laws of adoption where streamlined to make adoption SAFER for children, easy and less expensive for parents, and simpler for governments to process. Then those remaining children could be adopted!
AND, what if those children who they couldn't find an adoptive family for could be placed with an adoptive family until they do find an adoptive family!
The global orphan crisis is a puzzle. All around the world, people are working to solve it (places like Lumos, Abide Family Center, Asia's Hope and Ukraine without Orphans and so many more!). Let's join in to advocate for the children who are growing up in an institution without a family! The puzzle feels huge. No one person can solve it all by himself. Choose 1 or 2 things and work on only those puzzle pieces.
Here are some "puzzle piece" ideas you can do:
- Pray: for government leaders and policy makers, as well as those who are advocating for children inorphanages around the world.
- Advocate: Call and write government leaders to advocate adoption law and policy changes. Both Ends Burning has petitions you can sign and ideas on how to advocate.
- Buy fair trade whenever possible so that families in other countries don't have to abandon their children due to poverty
- Sponser a child through Compassion International or World Vision. Sponsored children are much less likely to be abandoned (because the parent can't feed them) or to end up in trafficking/slavery.
- Adopt or foster
- Support an adoptive or foster family that you know (This can be many, many ways, not just financial. It can be prayer, emotional support, babysitting, and more.)
- Support a single mom who is choosing to either parent her child or make and adoption plan for her child. Again, there are lots of ways to support beside financially.
- Join and/or support organizations that work with orphaned or foster children.
Disclaimer #1: This is NOT and anti-international adoption post. You know that I love adoption and am in full support of international adoption. Obviously, because I am adopting 2 kids internationally.
Disclaimer #2: Some of you are wondering why I even need disclaimer #1, because how could anyone be against international adoption? I am scratching my head with you on that one! But, believe me, there are lots of people who think that it is "kidnapping, trafficking, stealing children, etc." and morally wrong to remove a child from their birth culture/country. Hereeve, in my opinion if a child can't be placed in a permanent loving family in their birth culture/country, that is awesome! I am 100% for that. But, if there isn't a permanent loving family in their country, then find one for them in another country, because a child needs family more than culture or a country! AND while international adoption does remove them from their birth country and culture, there are lots of ways to celebrate, honor, and learn about their birth country/culture and their heritage.
I agree with this post so much. There are many people against international adoption, and it is not the only way to help children, but it is one way. When we were visiting our son in his former orphanage in Bulgaria, I was struck by how many children were there in just this one orphanage, and how many people I know here who would love to take in a child needing a home, but due to cost, excessive paperwork, etc, they don't feel it is an option. Meanwhile, there just aren't enough families in Bulgaria willing and able to adopt these beautiful children.ReplyDelete
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